2009-02-11

A Tough Decision To Make

So most of you know about my recent surgery to have my right ovary to remove. For my newer friends you can find out all about that through these posts, but to sum it up, I had a cyst the size of a grapefruit on that ovary.

Recently I have been having some symptoms similar to those I was having prior to my surgery (pain in my lower abdomen, unexplained heartburn). I had a yearly visit with my Midwife scheduled anyway so I went ahead and scheduled and ultrasound for the same day (the two offices are right across the hall from each other). can you see where I am going with this?

At my appointment my midwife automatically starts talking about if we plan on having more kids, how many do we want, etc...I am thinking "great there mustn't be a cyst". Dr told me another big cyst and I would have to decide between full hysterectomy or just another ooferectomy.

I don't know how it came up, but we started talking about my next ultrasound...I asked if she looked at today's results...she hadn't... com'on you must know where I am going with this now...my left ovary has a 3.5cm x 2.5 cm cyst. When they last measured my right ovary by ultrasound the cyst had reached 6+ x 3+ cm. I think I had prepared myself for this, I think my midwife was more upset about this than I was. She will not accept defeat...she caucused with the Dr...so now I have some choices

  • birth control pills and hope they held reduce or at least control the cysts until we are ready to go for number three
  • problems here: I react badly to birth control and there is no guarantee my pregnancy didn't control the last cyst fully we can't be sure birth control will and if they don't I risk not being able to get pregnant if the cyst grows to big or the cyst bursting
  • try to get pregnant right away then have a full hysterectomy following the birth
  • We are not ready to have another child right now, especially with my current employment
  • have surgery to remove the cyst and hopefully preserve the ovary
  • Run the risk of losing the ovary but best chance of fully saving the ovary as well, plus this means more surgery
This is where I am tonight. Hubby and I are talking about it and don't know quite what to do. Each option has a high and a low, but all should allow us to get pregnant at some point. I've pretty much narrowed it down to option 2 or 3, birth control pills are really that bad for me, and while it is an option we really don't think it will be horribly effective.

Fortunately we are not in a huge rush to make a decision, and really I was prepared for this. PLUS while we know we want more children, we have always talked about and been interested in adoption, so while I may not be able to carry anymore children if it comes to that it doesn't mean I can't have and love anymore children.

So this has been my day...oh and I am pretty sure I am about to get "in trouble" at work for letting something slip because I have been so distracted today...fun...

19 comments:

  1. Oh, I will be much in prayer for you. Take care and hope you don't get in too much trouble at work.

    Blessings to you and yours.

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  2. Oh my goodness...prayers are going out to you and your decision to make. Hang in there and hugs to you!!!
    ~Elyse~

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  3. Oh Liz,

    I am so sorry that you are faced with such tough stuff right now. I will be praying for you. Hope that all is ok at work too.

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  4. Praying that the Lord gives you the wisdom and the clarity to know what His plans are for you as you make this tough decision about your future.
    Hang in there. I'm sorry to hear about the new cyst. :(

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  5. Praying for you right now. I hope that you have the strength to make the right decision for you. So sorry to hear about this. Many Hugs to you.

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  6. Sorry to hear about the new cyst. I pray that the Lord will give you the strength and wisdom to make the right choice for your family.

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  7. That's a rough decision to make. I hope you guys come to the conclusion that is best for you and the family. What did you let slip at work?? Ugh, I wish we were hiring again. Sorry you have to deal with all of this.

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  8. I will be praying that God gives you and your husband great wisdom to make the right choice. I'm also praying for your midwife and doctor.

    Please keep us posted! Oh, and I hope you didn't get into trouble at work! :o)

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  9. I am so sorry to hear this news! That is a really tough decision to be faced with. I will be thinking of you.

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  10. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. We found out after I had my second son that my uterus was too weak to carry another child. I went ahead and had my tubes tied so we wouldn't have to worry about getting pregnant again. If you aren't planning on getting pregnant now, have you thought about the invetro (sp?) or getting your eggs frozen just incase they have to take your other ovary. It might be worth looking into. Good luck with everything and I hope all works out for you and your family! :)

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  11. All the best wishes on your tough decision. I can't imagine how hard it is for you to make it, but I'm sure you will make the decision that is best not only for you and your health but also for your family.

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  12. I hate craptastic days. Praying you can come to a decision and have pease with it.

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  13. Oh, Liz. What a lot to think about. Sending you huge hugs!

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  14. I'm not having a great day either. I just got told today that due to budget cuts my perfect part-time job will be gone at the end of April.

    I'm with you, sitting here asking, "Now what?"

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  15. Liz, I'm so sorry you are being faced with such a tough choice.

    Hugs

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  16. I can't avoid this any longer. I have been stewing over what I should say after reading this post. I wish I had the perfect words that would make it all better. I wish I could do something, anything to make this decision easier for you and Dan. I feel helpless and I hate not being able to say the right thing. Please know that you are on my mind and that I you all continue to be in my prayers.

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  17. Oh Liz...I'm SO sorry! I'll be praying for you. That's a hard decision to make & only one that you & hubby can decide. I can't take birth control either...so I understand not going with that option. I pray that you & hubs can come to a decision that will give you peace.

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  18. Awww, sweetie, I am so sorry to read this. It sounds like you're in a really good place mentally, but it just sucks to have to be faced with all of this all over again. I hope that whatever decision you make, you will feel good physically and the rest will fall into place for you.

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  19. Looks like fun. Thanks for coming by the other day.

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